“You come home, make some tea, sit down in your armchair, and all around you is silence. Decide for yourself whether that’s loneliness or freedom” – Anon
The first time I read this quote, it hit me right between the eyes. I’m reading a book at the moment about a girl who in her final year of school was taken from her home by ISIS, sold as a sex slave and lived without freedom for years. I’m also aware that as someone who is 31 , I do find myself sometimes envying the chaotic homes of my friends who have small children (I can hear that biological clock ticking louder and louder with every year haha!) .
And if I’m honest, there have been times where the silence of being without my own home full of a partner and our children feels deafening. It’s a deep loneliness only people whom have been single/and or childless can truly understand. .
Now before you go getting out a violin for me, please know I have been lucky enough to create a life I LOVE, but I’d be lying if I said I never experienced the sting of loneliness a quiet home can bring.
But then I read this quote and realise that my moment of loneliness, is another girls paradise. Heck, even my friends with kids would happily have the night off that I get to have every night, haha! Let alone someone who is currently stuck in a war zone, or homeless, or currently living with an unpredictably abusing parter.
So when I feel that “sting” of loneliness a quiet house can give, I don’t push it down or deny it’s there anymore. Instead, i try to add a little bit of perspective to help manage the sting, and it’s been really good for the health of my heart.
I guess all I’m trying to say is that life can be a hot mess, and give you situations you didn’t plan on being in. But regardless of the season you’re in right now perspective is important, if not totally imperative in regards to how much joy you will feel in a season of involuntary quietness.
Sending love, from my quiet home to whatever your home holds for you.